Holding a kid back, does it help??

[noreply66]

Good post

Seems like if your kids need to be held back he isn't making the grades to play sports. I was always told you need a [c] average to play at Logan. Now with that average they might need a little help getting into college but not held back.

[dragonalum]

no one starts 1st grade until the age of 7

That’s not true. I have a July birthday, so I was 6 all of 1st grade.

[dragonalum]

I’ll be honest, as an educator I think it’s more important to consider the student. If there are no academic/developmental problems, then I am 100% against it. While I get why people do it, I don’t really support it.
If the student is held back because of academic, maturity/behavioral issues, then by all means, yes, in fact I think it’s beneficial to the student. As a high school teacher, I see students all the time who probably should have been held back in 8th grade because they simply aren’t mature enough to handle the responsibilities of a high school course load.

[Redball]

Another issue is no one likes paying taxes, right? But you have no problem with us paying for one or two more years of public education so Junior can stay home with Mommy a little longer? I'm sure no one's volunteering to pay out of pocket for those extra unnecessary years.

[Truth&fiction]

Maybe a rule that you still have to be 18 years old when you graduate ( Plain English: say turn 19 no sooner than June 15th ) to be allowed to participate in sports their Senior year. That would put a stop to 19 yr old playing against 14 and 15 yr old . There has to be some kind of balance from the State. Success in sports creates the situation

[gamewatcher]

Honestly, I think the decision to make a child one of the older ones in his grade or one of the youngest should be made very early - the earlier the better and will have as much to do with maturity and being a class leader as anything.......the athletic part of it can be a "bonus".

Doing it in the 8th grade (unless maturity/academic issues are present) is late in the game for this type of decision. Let's also face the fact that the odds of junior actually getting an athletic college scholarship are pretty small (and I speak as a former educator that is married to a former educator)

I've seen it done late (it didn't work), but I also recognize that often the best athletes on a team are the older ones.

[BigBlueNation]

My son is a big kid, right now as a 12yr old he is 5'7" 130 lbs. 6th grader. He is also a pretty decend basketball player. I was at one of his ballgames and overheard one of his team mates parents make a statement that the only reason my son was better than his is because mine has been held back. He didn't realize I was sitting behind him. I told him the funny thing is my son is 3 months younger than his. They are in the same grade. With my sons size i get ask the question how many times he been held back all the time. I always say yes he was put back in the grade he is supposed to be in. Some people do frown upon it but who cares. As parent's one of our jobs are to give our children the best opportunity to succeed. If holding them back helps them then so be it.

[greygoose]

My son is a big kid, right now as a 12yr old he is 5'7" 130 lbs. 6th grader. He is also a pretty decend basketball player. I was at one of his ballgames and overheard one of his team mates parents make a statement that the only reason my son was better than his is because mine has been held back. He didn't realize I was sitting behind him. I told him the funny thing is my son is 3 months younger than his. They are in the same grade. With my sons size i get ask the question how many times he been held back all the time. I always say yes he was put back in the grade he is supposed to be in. Some people do frown upon it but who cares. As parent's one of our jobs are to give our children the best opportunity to succeed. If holding them back helps them then so be it.

Excellent Point, kind of right now the heart of what I was asking.

[greygoose]

Another issue is no one likes paying taxes, right? But you have no problem with us paying for one or two more years of public education so Junior can stay home with Mommy a little longer? I'm sure no one's volunteering to pay out of pocket for those extra unnecessary years.

LOL, you honestly don't think you pay more taxes because of the number of kids in school do you???? If that were the case you taxes would fluctuate every single year and all the money would go to the school system. None of us would live in school districts where D1 schools existed, heck just to get out of paying taxes you'd probably home school your kid if you thought that'd help. LOL...SMH. Most people who go straight to the taxes seriously don't understand anything about them. Far as paying for the extra year I've been told numerous reports where the kid has left and gone to private school then back to public school, so yeah they paid for the extra year.

This has been an excellent thread full of many good points and has helped me research the pros and cons of people holding their child back a year. Thanks to most of you for the informative information.

[The Flush]

Holding a kid back is definitely an advantage, so you should absolutely hold your kid back if your kid can't compete (academically or athletically) with kids his own age.

[se-alum]

Saw Coach Meyer's boy just turned 19. Obviously Coach thought it was a good idea to hold him back.